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Time Passes, Where There’s War and Where There Isn’t

With so much bad news all around us, especially in Gaza, before that Ukraine, and in the middle east for so long, it’s been challenging to focus on simple things, like a garden. To the point of it feeling irrelevant and even silly to focus on such an ordinary small thing. I’ve felt guilt at not making this horrible news more central in my life. And yet, I’m not there, there is little any of us can do beyond pray, sympathize, donate, commiserate. And this beautiful planet, devastated by the blasts just as her children (us humans, animals, plants- everything) are – suffers, too. So I do the things I can do, honor the life that arises here, and try not to let anxiety prevail.

So a story about time passing here.

My 19 year old daughter Inga got a summer job at a local med spa working the front desk. She started applying for summer jobs in April, interviewed remotely, and was offered this job before her final exams started. She was thrilled. She’d worked with the software they use and had done exactly this job last summer. She was especially happy because she wants to work as an injector when she finishes school, all goodness spring from beauty as it does 😉 and so a med spa would be good experience for her.

The night before her first day of work, which was scheduled for last week, she received an email from the med spa owner saying she’d given the position to someone else who can work year-round and that Inga didn’t “need to visit.” Inga hadn’t been aware they were (still) looking for someone for the job, or that they wanted a year round person. She was crushed.

I told her (in a more confident tone than I felt) that it was early enough in the season that she would find something else, and that she was better off. Who would want to work for someone that would behave that way, anyway? She saw the reason in my words and went back to job hunting. This went on for weeks and she had very few call backs and started to feel “helpless.” Most kids had secured summer jobs in April.

Then there was an offer to interview as … a jet ski guide. I laughed. Perfect for Inga who is spirited, athletic, and adventurous, and who has vowed in past summers to someday own a jetski because she thinks they are great fun. Yesterday she was offered the job with tips into the hundreds of dollars on the busiest (long) days… a small example of how sometimes things don’t go the way we hope, want, and expect them to, but somehow they work out.

Inga last summer

And, returning to the garden.

I’ve been wandering out to my herb garden every day to see if I could spot a sign of my echinacea angustifolia. Echinacea A. is the variety of echinacea most prized for it’s infection fighting power. I’ve read it’s a little harder to cultivate than purpurea, which, admittedly, is usually pretty easy going. But there hasn’t been a sign of it germinating and I was beginning to think it won’t happen this year…

Until today!

small green leaves emerging from dirt
tiny echinacea angustifolia seedling leaves poke up through the dirt

I hope and pray every day for things to come right, for healing, for the right outcomes, for people and planet to find balance, acceptance, equanimity, and well-being. May we all have a hand in creating peace and presence where and when we can, remembering to be. Not to be this or that. But just to be.

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Happiness and Success Go Well Together

Today I received an invitation to attend an event at Harvard Divinity School – The Path to Happiness: Ancient Wisdom for Modern Times with Swami Sadyojathah. It got me to thinking about meaning, success, and happiness.

During my time at Harvard I learned some meditation skills and a whole lot about the practices and beliefs that animate different spiritual and religious traditions. After graduating I applied some of them, especially in my work with teams all around the world. What I learned in my MA of Religion – which for me was a survey of the world’s religions culminating in a thesis that compared 2nd century Buddhist and Christian mystical texts – changed me, and was a key to my success in corporate settings.

I worked days in offices in Cambridge Massachusetts as a quality assurance engineer and spent nights and weekends in the graduate program for Religion during those years. My manager at the time, a PhD of Physics, thought that Religion was a laughable choice. Why not pursue studies that would further my career? The company would pay for that! He was the most compassionate, supportive, and empathetic of people, and I learned a lot from him. But I persisted. I was sure that if I understood the people I worked with better, that I’d be happier. My colleagues then, including my then-manager, hailed from all over the world: Turkey, England, Barbados, Russia, India, Argentina, France, Jordan, China, Japan, Sri Lanka, Scotland, Greece, Ukraine, even Florida. ;-). Just kidding. But even folks from Canada and Colorado brought a slightly different set of assumptions and work habits to our projects. And in the years that followed that remained true; like so many people I worked at a global company. What would facilitate my success and well-being more effectively than understanding the traditions and beliefs that my colleagues were raised with?

Some years later, after 9/11, he told me he thought my decision had been a good one.

Which brings me back to Swami Sadyojathah. The ancient practice of meditation remains, I believe, the single most effective practice for achieving happiness. It’s better, even, than wine, which I have been known to leverage toward blissful forgetfulness on more than one occasion.

Meditation and self reflection yield more than happiness, too. Self understanding and forgiveness – by-products of meditation – put us in touch with our selves in a way that deepens empathy, compassion, and ultimately understanding. And THAT is a key skill in any collaborative work environment.

Happiness may be the grail many of us seek, but the skills that help us cultivate happiness benefit the people around us. Anyone who has meditated likely knows that it is not a silver bullet, it’s more like a workout; It’s an investment in ourselves. And it builds capacity for leadership, teamwork, and being in community– all skills that evolve from self understanding and insight, which meditation helps cultivate.

A symbol for peace carved into sand on a beach

I won’t make it to Cambridge for the talk this time. But I appreciate the reminder and the important work that Swami Sadyojathah is doing in the world, for everyone.

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